Success has different meaning in different perspective and for different people. For some, Success is ‘Achievement of an objective’ while for some it is ‘Social Status of an individual’. Some consider ‘Accumulated Wealth’ as the unit for success measurement while for some it is ‘just opposite of failure’. Only a few consider success as leading a life that becomes an inspiration for others, which has taken less and given more, which leaves behind a happier world than what it was when they came. For some, bank accounts are less important than the treasures of blessings earned.
How one perceives success is purely his or her own discretion. Remember, success is not positive always. While most of the time success leads to happier life and prosperity, at times, it becomes a reason for disappointment and ultimate failure in life. Some ill minded people find success in achieving goals which harm the society and humanity at large. Plantation and blast of a powerful bomb that takes several lives can be success for some mentally discarded and ill nurtured people.
Success should be looked at from two different angles;
One: Success in Life which is also the ultimate aim or destination of life.
Two: Success in immediate missions.
Immediate missions are the milestones in journey of our life and should take us to the ultimate destination. If my destination is in east, my milestones should lead me to that direction only. It will be difficult to reach my destination if most of my milestones are in west! As rightly said by someone, “As you climb the ladder of success, be sure it is leaning against the right wall”. Being successful in climbing the wrong wall may actually be the cause of a failure. All the milestones should help me reach the ultimate destination. The nearer I managed to reach my ultimate aim before the final collapse, the more successful I should consider myself. As long as I am moving towards the ultimate destination, it is not important whether I fully succeed in all my milestone missions or not. Even if I fail in some of them, they should take me few inches closer to the aim or should create a ground for ultimate success.
Now the bigger question, what that ultimate destination should be? In fact, most of us don’t even have an aim in life! We just develop momentary dreams and goals out of desire for spending a luxurious life, competition with others, our egos and jealousy, our family liabilities, etc, and get engaged in fulfilling them without knowing if they will ultimately help or mislead. Albert Einstein once said, “Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value”. Success without honor can satisfy your hunger but it won’t taste good.
We generally consider rich businessmen, powerful politicians, popular cine artists, and other celebrities, as successful people. But are they really successful? Should money or popularity be the measurement of success? A businessmen selling drugs to students and making enormous money is not successful. Same logic applies to others. Reaching at minister or prime minister’s chair is not a success but rather a big responsibility which, if not fulfilled properly, may lead to a big failure. you are not successful by making a popular film which has no social message but rather misguiding the youth. Spending time and effort on a negative or useless aim is also wastage of one’s precious life. Also, it is wastage of collective wealth. Thus, not being able to set a proper goal is in itself a failure. You are not successful by making your children doctor or engineer; you are more successful by making them a good human being.
He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction.
Love people and use things rather than using people and loving things.
The strategy should be, to first decide the end goal very carefully; and then keep moving towards it with regular momentary milestone goals. Setting the end gold first will help in a making a focused effort to reach there. Momentary milestone goals can be to get suitably educated and skillful, help those who are in need, spend some time helping underprivileged, fulfill your social and family commitments, accomplish your targets without hurting others, be polite and appreciative, etc.
Setting the final aim is perhaps the most difficult task. Rarely ever do we consciously do it. Remember, your end goal should ideally not be materialistic like buying an expensive car of having a big house in a posh area. Parents and society also have a role to play in making one set his aim, correctly. It is never too late.
Set your goal in life, now, before it becomes too late. Revise your wishes, dreams and aims when you have enough time. May be certain things which you’ve achieved are not what you really wanted. May be some crucial aspects of life have just been ignored.
Let me conclude with Donald A. Miller’s statement, “Some aspects of success seem rather silly as death approaches”.